So the money situation is somewhat resolved. It involved me taking a day off from work, and driving up to our state's capital with a purpose: I needs my merney!
The IRS: could not get my agent on the phone; bank would not release my money, IRS didn't send over the right release form, back and forth, each blaming the other, I would call it phone tag with the exception being I was the only one making the calls, so bottom line, I hunted that bitch down and showed up in person with one evil looking boy from Alabama and refused to leave until I got paid!
And was home by 11am. And had my money returned that same day. Funny how even in the age of new technology, with smart phones, texts, emails, faxing, sometimes the old fashioned approach works the best.
Show up in person with folder in hand and take no shit attitude.
Still, we are out $300 in bank overdraft fees, but we got the big chunk back. Which is significantly better than nothing.
The worst part of it was (other than the returned check from my garbage pickup which was my final straw) was the fact that it wasn't just my money that was affected.
The Rottenator and I have a joint account, so not only was my paycheck hijacked, so was his. His hard-earned paycheck from a job he can't stand (which he is soon out of) was eaten up by means of a direct deposit and overdraft fees.
I felt guilty beyond belief; he, however, handled it wonderfully. Even though this was MY mistake, made long before the two of us even met, he saw it as OUR problem, OUR money, OUR hurdle to get past.
And I love him all the more for that. Maybe this was a lesson, that I was taking him, and our recently more comfortable life for granted by claiming I was bored, I don't know. Of course, my boredom could have also been cured by suddenly inheriting a million bucks, but this worked, too.
A heightened appreciation of the Rottenator, and an appreciation of my "boring" and drama free life. Lesson learned. And I realized, that once again, I do have a support system, people that love me, people that are willing to help out no matter what, and I am infinitely blessed. PS: thanks Mom. You know what for. I am, as always, grateful. And I promise that one day, you will not have to step in and bail out your 40 year old daughter.
Though I'll always be your favorite, right? ;-)
So, things are better, not completely perfect, but close enough for me to be able to relax for a minute and appreciate. I've also reached out to a very close friend that I knew over college and through my own selfishness, let the relationship flounder and die. And they responded favorably, as they always have when I have failed them in the past.
It makes me want to be a better person, and to appreciate people more. And be more accepting of what I perceive of as "flaws" and "shortcomings" in others.
Because I am far from perfect, and yet seem to be the first one to cast a stone. Empathy, it is MY major shortcoming, because I seem to have very little of it for others, yet demand tons of it for myself.
But I'm learning, and I'm working on it.
Oh, and Happy Valentine's Day! My sister sent me this:
And the Rottenator and I enjoyed a lovely dinner out; we celebrated early because he's working tomorrow night, but that's okay. At least the IRS couldn't manage to ruin that.
My (two!) Mood Ring(tones) Of the Day: